I have a rant to submit on behalf of a very good girlfriend of mine! The scenario is a familiar one and something that I'm sure every female in the world has experienced at least once in their lifetime!
You meet a seemingly nice guy. You go out a few times, have what you consider to be a great time! You have long conversations over the phone and start telling each other your life stories over email. Everything seems to be going very well and you are starting to feel quite lucky about meeting this particular man! Then all of sudden a full day goes by without a word from him. One day turns into two, and two turns into three. Wanting to give this guy the benefit of the doubt, you call him once or twice, leaving a message when you can't get a hold of him. Low and behold, another 2 weeks have gone by and you haven't heard one word from him. You are clueless and confused as to what went wrong! However more than anything...you are seriously pissed off! There were no signs from him. No words of doubt, no phone calls, emails or conversations of any kind expressing that "he wasn't interested", "wasn't feeling a connection", or "had no time for a girlfriend because of his other two wives and six kids!"
Why do men do this? Women can handle rejection! We've known you for less than a month. We are NOT in love with you! We are NOT picturing what are future children might look like. We will NOT break down into hysterics if you tell us that you never want to speak to us again. We are strong, independent twenty-something and thirty-something women who are just wanting to "try you on for size" just like you!
So boys...get some backbone!! If you don't want to date us any longer, for whatever reason..have the balls to tell us!
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Amen Sister,
This has happened to numerous women I know. There are several times where we women have not really been that into a particular guy as well however, normally we have the decency to call him back and tell him if not tell him to his face. We try to be nice and polite about it and YES, I even admit use the "friend" word but hey, at least they know what we mean. It think as mature, modern women, we owe that to you.. just wish the men out there would treat us the same way.
I am a guy who is very upfront an honest on this topic. I do not blow off girls, if I am uninterested I tell them.
However, I have not had this courtesy from many women, usually I am supposed to "take a hint". Hell, one girl actually said that "I cant believe you cant take a hint, If I don't return your call, I am not interested in talking to you".
yet the last time we talked, everything was great, so I am left to be once again, dazed and confused, and trying to assume what was it I did to create this reaction?
Its not just the boys, its the girls too...
I am not saying this is something guys should do.So if you can handle the rejection, since you've only known him for like a month, and he means that little to you who cares if he doesn't talk to you any more.
I like to believe woman wont break down and cry or get defensive when I break something off with them. But till I see it I wont believe it... girls turn the cry on when ever it helps them.
I am going to agree with Jeff, however, we would have no need to "turn the cry on" if we in return felt the same way.. or just respected his view. We (all of those who have been dumped) are not being rejected, just not what they are looking for..
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